How do you outsmart a liar?
- Start by asking neutral questions. ...
- Find the hot spot. ...
- Watch body language. ...
- Observe micro-facial expressions. ...
- Listen to tone, cadence, and sentence structures. ...
- Watch for when they stop talking about themselves.
- Make Sure They Are Lying.
- Stay Calm.
- Gather Evidence.
- Talk to Them in Private.
- Give Them a Chance to Explain Why They Did It.
- Explain Them How Their Lies Affect You.
- Be Prepared for Them to Be Defensive.
- Be reassuring. Let them know what they did is understandable. ...
- Minimize consequences. What will happen if they confess?
- The release. Explain that after divulging information, they will come out better—either be a better person, have a better outcome, or just feel relieved.
- Show agreeability.
If you confront them about their lying, chances are that they'll deny it. They may become enraged and express shock at the accusation. It's hard not to take being lied to personally, but pathological lying isn't about you. The person may be driven by an underlying personality disorder, anxiety, or low self-esteem.
- Separate yourself from their behavior. One of the biggest problems we face when encountering a liar is usually that of personalization. ...
- Check and confirm your facts. ...
- Protect yourself. ...
- Ask for the story in reverse. ...
- Call them out. ...
- Hold on to your integrity. ...
- Always reflect. ...
- Accept who they are.
- Confront your partner privately. ...
- Give your partner a chance to explain the lie. ...
- Remain calm. ...
- Show your partner the evidence. ...
- Explain lost trust. ...
- Propose relationship workshop.
- Go alone and bring food. It's a well-known fact that nobody confesses to a crowd. ...
- Take an empathetic approach. ...
- Don't ask questions. ...
- Cultivate short-term thinking. ...
- Stay in charge of the conversation. ...
- Be presumptuous, not accusatory.
- Be Absolutely Sure The Liar Is, In Fact, Lying. ...
- Remain Confident. ...
- Come To The Table With Love. ...
- Be Sure To Have The Facts In Tow. ...
- Keep It Conversational. ...
- Ask Them Specific Questions. ...
- Explain That You Won't Tolerate Lying. ...
- Get Your Mind Right.
Liars withhold information
Even though good liars can remember small details, they know it's best to avoid getting tangled up in too much information. Liars will also purposefully leave details out of their fabricated stories as a way to manipulate you. Remember: not telling the whole truth is still considered lying.
- A Change in Speech Patterns. One telltale sign someone may not be telling the whole truth is irregular speech. ...
- The Use of Non-Congruent Gestures. ...
- Not Saying Enough. ...
- Saying Too Much. ...
- An Unusual Rise or Fall in Vocal Tone. ...
- Direction of Their Eyes. ...
- Covering Their Mouth or Eyes. ...
- Excessive Fidgeting.
How do you catch someone lying over text?
- Being Purposefully Vague. ...
- Spotting a Lie in Text. ...
- Overly Complicating Things. ...
- Avoiding Certain Questions. ...
- Going Out of Their Way to Proclaim Honesty. ...
- Their Wording is “Off” ...
- They Hit You With a “G2G” or a “BBL” ...
- Trust Your Intuition.
You can't always change the behavior of a liar, but you can change how you feel and react to them. Once you learn to change your emotions about a situation you begin to see a lot more options. If you are honest with the situation you will realize that your happiness is more important than their behavior anyways.

- A Change in Speech Patterns. One telltale sign someone may not be telling the whole truth is irregular speech. ...
- The Use of Non-Congruent Gestures. ...
- Not Saying Enough. ...
- Saying Too Much. ...
- An Unusual Rise or Fall in Vocal Tone. ...
- Direction of Their Eyes. ...
- Covering Their Mouth or Eyes. ...
- Excessive Fidgeting.
- Go alone and bring food. It's a well-known fact that nobody confesses to a crowd. ...
- Take an empathetic approach. ...
- Don't ask questions. ...
- Cultivate short-term thinking. ...
- Stay in charge of the conversation. ...
- Be presumptuous, not accusatory.
A person who lies hates the individual they are lying to (Proverbs 26:28). And if you hate another human being, God views the hater as a murderer (1 John 3:15; 1 John 4:20). God hates the sin of lying because it is deceptive. False prophets and teachers are equally condemned.
Liars withhold information
Even though good liars can remember small details, they know it's best to avoid getting tangled up in too much information. Liars will also purposefully leave details out of their fabricated stories as a way to manipulate you. Remember: not telling the whole truth is still considered lying.